In its most basic form, low self esteem is basically a poor self image. It means that the individual does not think that they possess too may positive traits. This affects life in many ways, both personally and professionally. A lack of self esteem can result in unemployment, unsatisfying relationships, and a general sense of unhappiness.
Fortunately, there are things that can be done to help build self esteem. Ideally, building self esteem would start in childhood. Giving children positive feedback and helping them build on the things they are good at are two things that can be done. But what if it is an adult that has low self esteem? Here are some ideas for building self esteem.
Affirmations are a great way to help build self esteem. Start a phrase with, “I deserve” and build on that. Possible examples are, “I deserve a high paying job” or “I deserve to be loved.” Choose an area of your life that you need to work on building and write an affirmation that goes along with it. If you work on building that aspect of your life, it will help your overall self esteem.
Setting goals and accomplishing them is one great way to build self esteem. But the key is to set goals that are attainable and specific. For example, if your self esteem problems are based on your weight, you can set a goal to lose weight. But, make it more specific. If you need to lose fifty pounds, that will be your goal. If the goal is big and seems overwhelming, you can set smaller goals. In the weight loss example, you can set a second goal of losing one to two pounds a week.
Not taking care of your outward appearance is something that can hurt your self esteem. If you take care of yourself you will be happy with the way you look. When you look good, you feel good. And feeling good is something that will carry over into other aspects of life such as at work.
Worrying about what others think is something that can hurt your self esteem. The only opinion that truly matters is your own. When you focus on how you feel and what you think, you will start to reap the benefits of increased self esteem.
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